Reader be warned. This is a sensitive topic. If you are under 18 years old, move along, there is nothing to see here.
All women should know about the wonders of Coconut oil. It was actually a doctor who recommended it to me, but years before I was in the midst of perimenopause. She told me an older female patient of hers used it frequently and it helped to keep her "inner lining" from thinning out which is something that happens to women when menopause hits. It also helps to keep things from being dry when you are playing with a partner or by yourself. That was long before I was a few years before peri-menopause and I didn't start using it regularly until about a year and a half ago.
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Oh my. It makes things feel so much nicer that I didn't know why I waited so long to use it. There is also an added benefit; you can play longer. Pre-coconut oil I would get very sore very quickly. When I started using coconut oil I realized that I wasn't getting sore and pleasure was lasting longer. I'm not sure how much more pleasurable things seem to be that are connected to the coconut oil and how much is menopause. I've heard that some women enjoy sex much more after menopause and, though I've always been one to enjoy it, it is phenomenal now.
I highly recommend you try coconut oil for yourself. I would suggest experimenting by yourself first to see how much, or how little, is just right for you. Besides, if you don't know how to please yourself, how in the world is your partner going to be able to please you?
This short haiku poem I wrote for a previous A to Z challenge, but if felt fitting.
Fertile, moist and dark
secrets hiding in the folds
waiting to be found
And then I found this poem from OctPoWriMo 2015:
Angst pulls at my shirt
Battering at my senses
Calling for action
Demanding that I pay attention
Entering a State of awareness
Falling into the stream
Giving room for inspiration
Having spun out of chaos
into the deep beginners mind
Jaw clenching and unclenching
Keeping my connection to my soul
Living to learn and be
Muses poke and prod me
Need prickles my skin
Ominous moments settle in
Precious time slipping by
Quietly collecting words
Relishing the building tension
Standing or sitting
Tender compassion for my journey
Unleashing my voice to the skky
Venturing into unknown territory
Widening the possibilities
Xrays of definable moments
Yes being spoken again and again
Zany words explode on the page
It seems I've been writing through menopause all along I just didn't realize it.
Writing for the A to Z challenge. Please leave your link with your comment below so that I can visit your A to Z posts as well. Happy Writing!