Grab a cup of tea or coffee (oh what the heck, get a danish too!) and sit a spell. You might want to grab your notebook and pen because you never know when you will be inspired to write down a quote, or jot down a poem of your own. Words are like that, they take you on a journey and the next thing you know you are breathing life into your own magical world of words.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Can’t Lose Weight – Change Your Focus – Weightloss Wednesday

Change your focus from, "I can't lose weight no matter what I do"  to how you feel. It is time to throw away your scale. It is more important how you feel than it is for you to be stressing and focusing on whether you have lost or gained weight.

What can you do that will help you change how you feel?

The point of everything we do is to feel better, to love our life and enjoy the moment of now.  How can you enjoy it if you are constantly worrying about how much you weigh or what you are putting in your mouth; change your focus.

I don’t like the word exercise I believe that doing activities that are fun and active are more important than doing "exercise". I believe it is more important to how you feel. If you feel like crap while you are doing exercise and hating it the whole time or wishing it was over, how is that helping your body and mind? It is all about doing what you love, that makes you smile; radiating happiness makes you look beautiful.
Wouldn’t it be better to be loving whatever it is that you are doing? I believe that adding activities that you love are more important such as walking and dancing; make it fun.  If you don't love it don't do it. Whatever you choose to do add more movement into your body in fun ways and you will begin to see a difference.
What else can you do to feel good about yourself that would encourage you to eat healthier?
How do you walk? Do you have lightness in your step, do you sway your hips, do you consciously place your feet on the earth? Do you sashay, do you walk fast, do you walk slow, do you saunter? Do you smile when you walk? Are you enjoying your walk, do you feel like a wild and juicy woman with secrets that  make you smile; remembering when you danced in your living room to your favorite song.
No more scale no more looking at how much you weigh or how much you have lost or gained. No more. It is time to love your body as it is; bring fun back into your life and allow your choices to slowly become healthier because you have begun to love yourself more. You will naturally begin to choose healthier and healthier choices.
Reward yourself by doing something fun like going to a museum or concert. You will smile more because of all the fun you are having. Not for someone else. When anxiety pops up, like you know it will, you can breathe and remember it is one step at a time, one dance at a time, and just one movement at a time to get to where you want to be. Don’t be in a hurry. Love the moment. Smile and enjoy the feelings of knowing you are learning to love yourself more.
What can you do today that is fun? What one thing can you do differently that will add more movement into your life that you would enjoy doing?  
I know you can do it. If I can do it you can do it. I have added just a couple of things that I am doing differently and I have noticed that I am slowly feeling better about me and having a genuine love for myself.
Losing weight and getting healthy doesn’t have to be torture. It all comes down to how you feel about yourself. That is where it started anyway wasn’t it? You didn’t feel good about yourself so you reached for food; I know I did and still do sometimes. Forgive yourself, love yourself, be okay with who you are and where you are right now.
Leave a comment with your link to your blog that talks about how you look at weightloss and the differences you are seeing and doing.
Remember... Throw away your scale; it is about feeling good now not how much you weigh.

Much Love and Blessings,
Morgan Dragonwillow
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  1. great post! I have about 15 pounds to lose. Not a huge number, but I know that my clothes don't fit right and i refuse to buy more!!! I started weight watchers 2 weeks ago. I am down 2.7 lbs. I have increased my water intake each day, cut the carbs and upped the fiber... I am starting to feel good!


  2. You've hit the nail on the head with this one, Morgan. I'll never use the word diet - but if my feelings are that I'm sluggish, or stiff, I know to change my eating input and my activity output.

    No matter how strong you are, chasing labels will only result in disaster. How you feel will lead you correctly, if you'll listen, and hear.

    And remember, you're a work in progress. So be good to yourself.

    Thanks for that upbeat article, Morgan!

  3. Hi Elizabeth, I have decided that I refuse to look at my numbers. I am only going to track my progress by how I feel. I believe that if I focus on how I feel and work torward feeling good (still acknowledging all my feelings just working on ways to feel good), move my body in to music regularly and walking then I will slim into a healthier weight in no time.

    Love Yourself into a Healthier You!


  4. Hi Gibson, My pleasure I am glad you enjoyed it! It sounds like you are very in tune with your body and that is great.

    Ahhh chasing labels is a good way of putting it. I have always hated labels and frequantly rebel against them.

    Hope you have a Great Week!


  5. Great advice in your post and in the comments above. I'd like to add that when I do splurge on something (usually involving chocolate!) I refuse to feel ANY guilt about it. I make sure to savor each bite, totally revel in it, and even tell myself that it is good for me.

    It bugs me when people eat dessert, but complain the whole way through about how bad it is, and how they are cheating and so on. What a bad message to give your body. That attitude seems unhealthy to me!


    1. mmmmmm, yes I do love desserts (dark chocolate cheesecake is my favorite) and I refuse to eat them guiltily; that would waste a perfectly good dessert! It is very important the thoughts we have while we eat. For instance how Masaru Emoto shows with his water experiments; the differences between positive statements and negative statements greatly change the water properties. It is the same with food; whatever we are thinking and feeling adds energy to the food as we eat it.

      I once read somewhere but can't remember where; that if we changed that one thing, how we think and feel about what we are eating no matter what we are eating, everything we put in our mouth is nutritious. I found that hard to believe at the time but it is something that we have been conditioned to believe; that certain foods are bad for us and we must feel guilty. I do believe it is important to eat healthily but... I decided to eat my desserts and see them nourishing my whole being. :D



Thanks for sharing your thoughts.


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